All our lives, our minds are filled with the mystery of love. We go on searchingsome feel that they have failed miserably and others still continue on the quest, thinking that such failures are but obstacles to be tackled. But the eternal question is, “How do we know if it is the love worth finding?”

What we know about this unending search is that you are looking for something permanentsomething that would last. Forever? Is there even such a thing? In fact, there is. It is rare, but it does exist.

A professor of mine once told me, “Love is 100%–50% for you and 50% for your partner.” And it has to happen at the right time, right place and instance for it to work. If it does not, then the couple should separate and try to fill in those percents lacking for their 50. And when those 50%’s are complete, they will meet again and this time, it will work. The only problem is lovers have so little faith. They try and try to make things work out when it is not yet the time. This is what causes everything to be chaotic. They are so scared of losing each other that they force things to work when all they really have to do is trust that someday, they will meet again.”

Your search for true love should not be limited to what society perceives as true love. We are but unique species, we have different needs and wants. Things work for each of us differently. You may fight everyday but by the end of each day, you lie down together, feeling contented.

In the end, the love worth finding is what works for youwhat truly makes you glow from inside out. It does not matter where you found it. What matters is, it is the love worth going through every single earthly version of heaven and hell for the type that makes you want to wake up each morning just so you can thank God for letting you find one another in this crazy, twisted world.

Knowing what to find is one thing, actually knowing where to find it is another. The truth is, you will never know. That is why we have to take chances. We cannot expect to find true love just by sitting in one corner waiting for it to come along. We have to seek it. And with the wide array of things available for us online, who knows, maybe love is just also one click away.

Robert Johannsen MA is a psychology and freelance author living in British Columbia. His popular Ebook, Proven Secrets for Attracting your Soulmate has helped people find that special someone since 2000.

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I was thinking about softness, and how it changes your vibe. We’re all very smart, very clever, very defended. We don’t want anyone to see how films about animals make us cry, or our scrap booking, or all the mistakes we made and continue to make around everything in life. We don’t want anyone to see that we’re lonely, or frightened, or exuberant about the simplest things. We don’t want anyone to see us being childlike and hopeful. So we cultivate our intellect, our opinions, our thoughts on where we’ve been and where we’re going.

Today I was in the kitchen eating what I’d cooked, when my husband walked in. I have a horrible history of burning food. There was the time several months ago when I retreated to the microwave, defeated, afraid my absent-mindedness would burn the house down (talk about repressed rage). In the last few weeks I’ve been trying the stove again - scheduling cooking time, staying put in the kitchen, turning on the timer, sharpening my attention, and not burning anything! I’m cured! I’m a cook! I’m not a menace, I can do this! And the ground turkey I cooked in the pan smelled very nice on my plate. And he says, alarm and accusation in his voice, “Did you burn something?”

“No!” I look up at him in shock.

“It smells like you burned something. Something’s burned.” and he walks into the kitchen.

“No, no!” I defend, going for the pan, picking it up to show him, feeling five years old and incompetent. “It’s just nicely brown, see?” I say forcefully, totally righteously. It’s his nose that’s wrong.

“Well, it smells like something’s burned.”

All of a sudden I get what I really feel. Yes, I’m five. I screw up my face and do big time mock crying and whining. “But I didn’t burn it!” I wail. “I didn’t….” and I go all gooey, pan in my hand, miserable. And in that second, my husband does a 180. His eyes go deep and very blue-green, he smiles so fast I’m taken aback, and he comes towards me, arms around me, “Ohhhhhhh,” he says. And that’s the end of it.

“So, how’s your day?” he skips right to his next thought, and he’s standing right up against me, and we’re connected, and I leap from five-year-old to grownup, from lump to goddess. Long ago, whenever this happened, I used to think it was because he was competitive and didn’t want me to be big. I thought he liked me girly and the loser at chess and gin rummy. I thought he was scared of my fortitude. Now I know that’s not it at all.

He just likes me better soft. He likes me better where I am than where I wish I was. He likes me better human than mistake-proof. And by liking me better this way, he encourages me to rise to the ultimate test of any relationship: He inspires me to say that I like myself best when I’m with him.

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Romance word always refers to love between a boy and a girl.
Love word can mean affection between a boy and a girl and also refer to many other relationships. A mother always loves her children. One does not use the word Romance for that. What is Romance? Why do people feel romantic love for opposite sex?

Is it purely biological to carry forward the specie? Then how are we different than other animals? People die for each other in romance? Why? People feel shattered if a breakup occurs?
Why? Why write poems and notes on romance? So, romance has something more to do than pure biological need.

I would say that romance is a feeling of deep attachment and affection that goes beyond all known human bonds. Romance can not be easily defined but only experienced. One who has never felt romantic will never understand about romantic feelings.
Lucky are those who fall in romantic love.

In romantic love, a person feels inspired. In love nothing looks impossible. Love motivates one to great heights. To please one’s romantic love, a lover can do anything. Some romantic lovers don’t even care for their life in love. One wants to look good in one’s lover’s eyes and wants to win the love for ever. That motivates the romantic lovers.

Romance is an emotion of the heart, and it gives a new outlook to life. It makes one feel good. It makes one feel in heaven. a person in romance needs nothing more than his/her beloved. That is romance! When you look at the clouds flying across the sky, when you enjoy the setting sun, when you marvel at the beauty of the snow topped mountain peaks, you feel that no sight can better these beautiful scenes. Take a look at the faces of a pair in deep romantic love with each other and you will say - i was wrong. Romance is beautiful!

Mohatta writes about different aspect of life. Love, inspiration, pains, humanity, truth etc. He is currently dedicated content writer for RomanticDesktops.com He writes text for the eCards, Wallpapers and Screensavers for Screene.com network of websites.

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